This woman is having an affair with a man 25 years younger than her — and she’s soaking in every amazing minute of it.
British fashion magazine editor, Charlotte Anne Fidler recently wrote about her hunky lover for the Telegraph in which she fawned over her beau who she describes as being “stupidly good looking.”
On paper, Fidler seemed to have the picture-perfect life — thriving career, husband and two daughters. Yet, when she found out her husband was having an affair — for six years — she said she was blindsided.
“I loved all that we’d built together with our family; I couldn’t bear the idea of losing him,” she wrote in the article.
After finalizing their divorce, her ex-husband remarried quickly, and “we now have a decent working relationship.”
Fidler distracted herself from her heartache by building her own skincare company for teens called Spots & Stripes.
After some time, she eventually felt ready to date again and went on “fine” dates with men — but soon realized she didn’t want to “swap stories about divorce and children. I wanted something different.”
“With a friend egging me on, I switched my dating age range to 27-39, and the pictures immediately looked so much better,” she explained.
She realized that when you stop looking for “the one” — things get way more exciting and liberating.
It was in that moment that she met her current beau. After an incredible date, Fidler realized how this new guy made her feel: desired. “I didn’t question why he’d want an older woman. I couldn’t doubt our chemistry.”
The two continued to date and eventually slept together.
“Of course, sometimes, I do think, ‘God, I hope my stomach doesn’t look bad from this angle,’ Or wish I still had my 30-something breasts. But I try not to let those thoughts creep in,” she told the outlet.
And Fidler doesn’t consider herself a cougar nor does she lean in to any of those stereotypes when an older woman dates a younger guy.
When she’s with him, she said, “everything that’s normally whirring around in my head goes still.”
As expected, Fidler has faced some criticism from neighbors — and even her daughter — about her relationship with a younger man.
“My youngest daughter thought he was fun, but my eldest was initially hostile.”
“My eldest is only 10 years younger than him and that made her uncomfortable. Now my youngest says I should be looking for someone older, to be a father figure for them. I’ve told her, you have your own dad for that,” Fidler wrote.
When asked if the couple will get married, Fidler replies that they’re “just enjoying it – not making plans.”
“This relationship has helped me let go of fear. I just made the leap and opened myself up to whatever might happen.”
Fidler’s admiration for a younger man isn’t anything new. A study published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS) revealed that women are just as attracted to younger partners as men.
Researchers analyzed 4,500 blind dates of people seeking a serious partner.
“After a blind date, participants were slightly more attracted to younger partners, and this trend was equally true for men and women,” study lead author Paul Eastwick, a professor of psychology at the University of California, said to SWNS.
“This preference for youth among women will be shocking to many people, because in mixed-gender couples, men tend to be older than women,” Eastwick said.
Plus, women generally say they prefer older partners.
“But women’s preferences on the dates themselves revealed something else entirely.”
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